Content Warning: If you’ve experienced sexual assault or abuse, the following article may be triggering. For support, contact the National Sexual Assault Telephone Hotline at 800-656-HOPE (4673).
LPA-certified coach Kyle Elliot shares his experience of “stepping across the threshold” from private to public by sharing his mental health lived experience.
Five years ago, when at my lowest point, I discovered the true power of storytelling. It not only saved my life but has helped countless others.
I was sexually assaulted in graduate school and subsequently developed PTSD and experienced severe panic attacks that often lasted for hours. I’d pace around my apartment for hours as I endured a confusing mixture of déjà vu, disassociation, and memory loss. To this day, I have yet to experience something as scary and unnerving as the months of hell that followed my assault.
Between the incessant panic attacks and déjà vu, I found the strength and courage to talk more openly about my experiences. After initially posting my thoughts on social media, I decided to share my story via mental health organizations like NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Health), One Mind, and Psych Hub. Despite being incredibly scared to disclose my mental health conditions in such a public manner—and recognizing the choice to do so is different for everyone—I felt confident that doing so would help me move forward with my recovery.
And I was right. Within moments of sharing my story on social media and in articles, I received many messages of support. The anxiety and shame I had been carrying for years dissipated as family, friends, clients, and strangers offered their comfort and understanding.
While it’s not always easy to translate my feelings into relatable words, it’s during the challenging times that I find the most relief in sharing my mental health journey. It’s also where I’ve found a supportive, uplifting community. I joined The Stability Network and found solace in knowing I wasn’t alone in my mental health journey. I also learned how to more effectively use my voice and platform to help others share their stories, get help, and achieve recovery. To support that work, I recently became a Living Proof Advocacy-certified coach.
Sharing my story hasn’t only enabled my own recovery, but it has also positively impacted the lives of others. Last month, for instance, I shared on social media that I contacted my doctor to request a new anti-anxiety prescription. Although the subsequent words of encouragement from social media followers soothed me until I was able to meet with my doctor, what really touched me was the dozens of messages from people with similar lived experiences. Many shared that the post was a vital reminder that they, too, needed to check in on their own mental health.
Each time I share my story, I take great pride in knowing my words have power. Over the years, I’ve received so many messages from both friends and strangers who have decided to take action as a result of the stories I share. I get chills when people tell me my words inspired them to call their therapist, message their doctor, or contact a suicide hotline.
To put it simply, I wouldn’t be where I am today without the power of storytelling and the incredible support network I’ve built. I’m also confident others wouldn’t be here had I not decided to share my story.
If you’re feeling anxious, scared, or alone, consider whether it’s time for you to share your stories with others. Your words might save a life. You’ve got this!
Dr. Kyle Elliott, MPA, CHES is the founder and career coach behind CaffeinatedKyle.com. His goal is simple: To help people find jobs they love. As a queer person, male sexual assault survivor, and someone living with mental health conditions, Dr. Elliott is proud to have the opportunity to use his voice and platform to help others share their stories, get help, and achieve recovery.